Many Misters
Got this from some site, after a friend was tellin me about how nice guys finish last. The article seemed to put down nice guys, saying they werent all that angelic and fell into one of these categories usually -- which led to them finishing last.
Note the comparison here is between the 'bad guys': the biker dude, woman beater, the cheater, the flirt, you get the picture... and the 'nice guys'. 'Nice guy' traits are illustrated below. It's a funny read, light hearted to be taken with a pinch of salt, I've a lot of nice guy friends and they're none of these! :)
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Here are a list of 'nice guy' traits that turn women off:
Mr. Insecurity: Women like men who are self-confident. Shyness and self-consciousness are not "manly" traits. Women want a guy who likes himself and doesn't need someone else to reassure him that he's worthy and good. If you don't even like yourself, why should someone else? Don't look for happiness outside yourself. Once you are happy with yourself, people will see that in you and be attracted to it, just like bugs are attracted to light.
Mr. Clingy: Guys who want to spend all their time with a woman, or who attach themselves to a woman shortly after meeting her are a total turn off. Women feel threatened and wonder if he's a stalker. And we really don't want someone who thinks they are in love after one date. That just reeks of desperation.
Mr. Depression: Hey, everyone gets depressed once in awhile. But having known some of these nice guys, one thing I noticed is that they are often depressed and some even threaten suicide. Sorry guys, most women still believe we need a good provider – and how can you support us (not just financially, but emotionally, too) if you can't even hold yourself up?
Mr. Victim: Many of these self-proclaimed nice guys love to play the victim card. In every past relationship, the woman walked all over them and they were total victims. Great, he's a prime target for a woman who wants a guy she can walk all-over, and women who want a guy to take care of them will not be interested in Mr. Victim. Some Mr. Victims will introduce themselves as Mr. Cheated-On. He thinks that claiming he was cheated on is a "get out of jail free" card -- he's assuming this story will not only earn him sympathy but will also make him look totally blameless in the break-up. Men realize that saying "I was cheated on" sounds better than saying, "I was a jackass who treated her badly so she left me." If he's actually telling the truth, it makes you wonder why he can't keep a woman. Keep in mind that the main reason women cheat is because they are feeling unloved, neglected, or unappreciated -- not just for the sex. Also keep in mind that if it's true, do you really want a guy who is going to worry about you cheating on him, too? Who needs that kind of paranoia in a relationship?
Mr. Materialistic: This guy is obsessed with money and nice things. If he has money, he'll try to impress women with how much money he makes, or how prestigious his job sounds. But later, he'll whine that women are "gold diggers" only after him for his money. If you don't want to attract "gold diggers" stop bragging. Simple enough. Guys who don't have money complain women won't date them. One guy recently whined, "Women judge us on our bank accounts first, and our personalities second!" If that was true, only rich men would marry! Even if it is true that men are judged by their wallets, women are judged by their looks. It's a pretty even playing field so stop whining! If you don't have enough money to get a beautiful woman, date the average woman who can't get the rich guy. Problem solved.
Mr. Romantic: Many nice guys fancy themselves as romantic, sweet and poetic. You've met this guy – he's the kind who'll buy romantic gifts for a gal he just met, and are always trying to make every encounter "romantic". Contrary to popular belief, not all women are slobbering romantics. A woman who is not really into poetry and candle light dinners or walks on the beach will be suspicious of a guy who claims he is. She'll think he's either trying to con her, or that he's just plain sappy. Either way, she'll scratch him off her list as being incompatible.
Mr. Mom: Guys who love domestic chores such as cooking and cleaning, who love shopping, and who are really maternal with kids are all giving off a feminine vibe. A lot of women will think he's too feminine. Some gals hate to cook and clean, so they'll jump at the kind of man who wants to take over those activities. But many women will feel usurped by that behavior, even if they dislike those things. Just as many men feel threatened by a woman who earns more than them, many women will feel misplaced by a man who thinks he can do better at being homemaker and mommy. And let's face it -- while some women might find guys who totally blubber over kids to be cute at first, it gets old quickly. Keep in mind, a lot of women are looking for macho guys.
Mr. Immature: Most women don't want a guy they see as immature and irresponsible. They'll see a man who is financially irresponsible as a kid who can't handle a checkbook. If he is addicted to video games, many women will see this as a sign he's not any more grown-up than a teenaged boy. But worse yet, an immature attitude can really chase women off. I've often found these nice guys are often unable to take responsibility for their own actions, and instead blame other people any time things don't go right. The most blatant example of this is how most of these guys blame "assholes" for getting all the women (an Army major I met blames black men for his lack of female companionship). All of these things are blatant signs to women that men are immature and not ready for the responsibilities of a wife and children.
Mr. Misogyny: For those of you unfamiliar with the term, this means hatred of women. While this isn't exactly a "feminine" trait, it is another vibe that will turn women off. A lot of nice guys I came across were very bitter and angry towards women in their past, or to all women for liking "jerks". They may not hate all women, but they do hate some women whom they were close to, and this is like a bright, flashing warning sign to most women. Let's just say these guys aren't usually Momma's Boys -- they usually have mommy issues. One of the worst nice guys I met would go off on tirades about how much hatred he had for his birth mother for giving him up for adoption, how much he hated his adoptive mother for supposedly being abusive, his step-mother for not being affectionate with him, and his ex-wife for leaving him for another man. He would talk about how he'd play video games where he could rape and murder women to "vent" his frustrations on these "evil" women in his life. Yea, and then wondered why he couldn't get a date.
posted by dustyrose @ 7:19 AM
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